Updated: May 25
If so, you are not alone.
This is a very common frustration and it is sometimes not helped by all the well-meaning folk on social media posting up their workouts and beautifully balanced meals, with seemingly unlimited amounts of motivation.
Here’s something that may not be entirely obvious at first glance.
I would almost guarantee that these people have days where they also struggle to motivate themselves.
I know I do.
So, what keeps me going when I wake up on the wrong side of bed one morning?
My general goal at the moment is to maintain my current weight and athletic performance.
Before that it was to gain some muscle and before that it was to lose a little body fat.
I tend to cycle between the three of them across the year.
Now I am going to share with you my ‘why’
If I am lucky enough to become a parent, I want to be able to play with my child without being hampered by poor mobility or being left out of breath. I want to win the parents sports day and I want them to look up to me as a positive role model.
I want to live until I am 100 and play with their grandchildren too (I’d probably skip sports day at that point though, but who knows!).
Now, which do you think is more motivating in the middle of winter as I wake up to go to the gym at 6am and it’s dark and icy outside?
The bit in blue…
What’s my point? How can this help you with your own goals?
Aligning your current goal to your own personal ‘why’ can really help.
For example, you may currently weigh 90kg have a goal to lose 10kg
You could give that a timescale of 16 weeks which when broken down into weekly goals is just over 0.6kg per week (very achievable with an appropriate calorie deficit).
Breaking the bigger goal down into smaller, more manageable chunks like this can be very useful. However, if we ask our self why we want to lose those 10kg we start to uncover our true motivations.
Here’s a little example: “I want to lose 10kg because I will feel better”
Why will you feel better?
“I will be lighter”
Why would being lighter make you feel better?
“Because I used to really enjoy running and when I was a lot lighter I did it more often because my joints hurt less”
What is it about running that you enjoy?
“It allows me time away from my desk to unwind and process my thoughts. When I get home from work my wife says I am far more relaxed and my children notice this too”
Would you describe your family life as a core value of yours?
“Completely, they mean the world to me”
BOOM! We have identified a core value that provides the underlying reason for the weight loss goal. Values are very personal and can be highly emotive, for this reason identifying your core values and how they align to your goals helps us to stick with them when the going gets tough.
How do I find my core values?
A great way is to grab a pen and paper and write down 5 things that matter to you more than anything else in your life.
Make sure you actually write them down and be sure to keep them quite specific, because “happiness” or “fitness” isn’t all that useful, much like the example of “losing weight” above.
How do these personal core values align with your current goals?
If they clash then perhaps you need to reassess your goals and align them to better fit your values.
That way they are working together rather than pulling in opposite directions and you may find that they are a lot easier to stick to on that cold December morning 😊
Let me know in the comments below if you found this blog helpful, or if you have any questions. I'd love to hear from you & thanks for reading!